Wednesday, January 29, 2014

What the Boys are Wearing

I knew from the beginning of our wedding planning shenanigans that standard black tuxedos weren’t in the cards for us.  Dude fancies himself a stylish guy and to be honest, we’re not formal, our wedding isn’t formal, so tuxedos wouldn’t really fit anyways.

Once we decided on the whole grey and orange color scheme, my brain kinda got fixated on grey suits for Dude and his groomsmen.

I pinned about a million and a half grey wedding party pictures and then I happened upon this beauty.

Is it weird to call a picture of dudes with their heads chopped off a beauty?  In any case, I fell in love.  I loved the groomsmen in just vests, the groom in a suit jacket, and  the bright, fun ties.

I showed this picture to Dude on my phone one day and basically didn’t give him the option of saying he didn’t like it.  I think I finally won him over when I mentioned how freaking hot it will most likely be in the middle of August and how thankful his guys will be that they don’t have to wear jackets. 

So yesterday, Dude and I ventured out to check out our options.  We very quickly discovered there aren’t very many rental options for grey suits. 

We briefly toyed with the idea of having the guys just buy grey pants and a vest, but with ¾ of the groomsmen in professions where “dressed up” means a pair of track pants without permanent stains on them, we thought it was kind of impractical.

Dude eventually decided on this suit for him:

And this look for his groomsmen, but different socks for every guy:

Quick and dirty Photoshopping from me!

I’m still not completely sold with the tie/cufflinks being all matchy matchy, but Dude is excited about them and wants to try to make them himself and I don’t want to poo-poo any sort of DIY project he wants to take on.

It’s pretty cute actually.  (:

So now that we’ve got that off our to-do list, now I’m wondering – do groomsmen and fathers of the bride and groom wear the same suits?  The same ties?  Ties that match their wives/dates? 

My first instinct is to say no because I wouldn’t ask my Mom or his Mom to wear a matching bridesmaid dress, or to even match my girls at all.  But then I get this image in my head of my Dad in a tuxedo and bowtie while all the other guys in the wedding party are in vests only.  I also don’t want Dude’s Great Aunt Sally to mistake my Dad for my husband if he and Dude are wearing the same suit. 

What do you guys think?  Am I just thinking about this too much?

Monday, January 27, 2014

Save the Dates!

I’ve been waiting and waiting until most of our guests received them, but I can’t wait anymore!  Back in October, Dude and I designed our Save-the-Dates.  

In November we finally bit the bullet and ordered them…and then proceeded to procrastinate on sending them out until just a couple of weeks ago. 

And you know why we finally sent them out?  Because the price of stamps was going up and I had already purchased all the postcard stamps we needed and I didn’t want to have to add a 3-cent stamp to our already crowded save-the-dates.

So anyways, here’s the front of our save-the dates, which took, believe it or not 6 rounds of editing between me and Dude.  I designed, he tweaked and in the end, I think it’s perfect! 

All photos in this post are personal; but the original engagement photo copyright belongs to Michael Will Photography.

Doeblerghini Bunch:  Save the Date Front

We actually had two versions of our save-the-dates.  One with a Mom-approved quote on the back.
Doeblerghini Bunch:  Mom-Approved Save the Date

And a second version with a much more “us” quote on the back.   
 Doeblerghini Bunch:  Fart Save the Date
Cool Story Bro:  Dude and I loved this quote so much that I actually turned it into typographic art and hung it in our bedroom. </csb>

Since we’ll most likely be printing and assembling our own initiations when the time comes, we figured now was as good a time as any to compare printing styles and quality between VistaPrint and Overnight Prints. 

So, we ordered the Mom-approved save-the-dates from Overnight Prints.  And the fart quote save-the dates from VistaPrint. 

To be honest, I can’t really see the difference until they’re next to each other, but you can kind of tell that the two grey backgrounds are different shades.

Doeblerghini Bunch: Save the Dates side-by-side
Top is Overnight Prints, bottom is VistaPrint
Doeblerghini Bunch: Save the Dates side-by-side
Left is Overnight Prints, right is VistaPrint
 What do you think? 

Of course, everything couldn’t be as smooth as the designing and printing of these bad boys. 

One morning, in the hopes of encouraging myself to actually address the darn things, I left the save-the-dates and a roll of 100 postcard stamps on our dining room table.  When I got home from work that afternoon, I found shreds of stamps all over our dining room floor.

Doeblerghini Bunch: Jacked Up Stamps

I guess Pepper got bored while we were at work and decided to check out all the goodies on the table.  Of course she couldn’t stand the perfect roll of stamps and it had to be destroyed.

I salvaged as many as I could, but eventually, that $4 I saved by buying my stamps before the price went up was totally lost by replacing stamps Miss Pepper ingested…

Doeblerghini Bunch:  Salvaged Stamps

Anyone else experience a stamp disaster with their invites or save the dates?  What do you think of ours?  Can you tell I  had to Photoshop Zeke’s head on the front of the postcards?    

Wednesday, January 8, 2014

A Pinterest Wedding

My wedding will probably never be featured on Pinterest; and I’m ok with that.

Since the advent of Pinterest and along with it, easier access to the bajillions of blogs and other whatnots, I’m feel like I am constantly struggling to keep up.

Every time I log into Pinterest, I am absolutely blown away by the talent that I see on every page for everything from wedding DIY projects to home construction and organizing.

I can’t tell you how many hours I’ve spent on Green Wedding Shoes and Style me Pretty and even Offbeat Bride oogling the beautiful weddings brides have created on a budget or with no budget and I feel like my wedding will just never be up to snuff.

I feel like every single one of my guests will yawn when they see my “here comes your girl” sign, the photobooth and our bathroom baskets.   

So then, like some kind of glutton for punishment, I get back on Pinterest and desperately search for new inspiration to turn my wedding into a stylish affair that other brides will lust over. 


I want every bride out there to repeat after me:  If my wedding is never featured on Pinterest, it doesn’t make me any less of a person and it doesn’t invalidate my marriage.

It’s so easy to get caught up in the details of wedding planning that being true to yourselves as a couple is pushed to the wayside and exchanged for the idea of creating the best. wedding. ever.

It is so important to keep reminding yourself (Self, I hope you’re paying attention!) that your wedding doesn’t have to be completely unique to be special or important or memorable.  The only two people who need to see your wedding day as special are you and your husband. 

Just because your wedding may never be featured in blogland, that doesn’t make it any less extraordinary.  And if no one ever says “Oh my GOD, that was the funnest/craziest/best wedding I’ve ever been to!” that doesn’t make you a failure.    

As brides, we become readers of wedding everything and become so saturated with ideas that we forget 95% of our guests aren’t checking out sites like WeddingBee every day or reading Modern Bride on their lunch break. 

I don’t know about you, but I’ve read about a couple having a photobooth at probably 57 featured weddings both online and in print. 

How many weddings have I actually been to with a photobooth?  Two. 
So when I read that photobooths are “overdone” and start thinking that mine will be super lame, I take a step back and remind myself that at least half of our guests have never seen a photobooth outside of a mall food court. 

And if 249 guests out of 250 have been to a wedding with a photobooth, who cares?  Photobooths are a blast and that’s why they’re awesome at weddings.  I guarantee you if I’d been to 20 weddings with one, I’d still be wearing a fake moustache and a sombrero in the 21st.     

Sorry I just harped on photobooths for four paragraphs. 

Back to the point – your wedding day is still your day; it is still one that you will remember for the rest of your life.

On August second, I’ll be marrying the love of my life – my winning lottery ticket.  I’ll be sharing that day and those memories with the 250 people that mean the most to us.  (Ok maybe 220…you never know about those +1s…)

We’ve pulled in elements that make us happy, that we can’t wait to experience with our guests; and truly, isn’t that what matters?!  Who gives two shits if Aunt Lucy hated your Dollar Store centerpieces or your cousin Natalie has already been to 3 weddings this year with a candy table??

In the end, our wedding is just that – OUR wedding. 

Whether a million strangers see it or just the people we’ve invited, I will be happy no matter what the outcome is because, like I’ve said in previous posts, what matters most is that at the end of the day, I can call Dude my husband.

So no, my wedding will probably never show up on WeddingGawker, but as long as in ten years, (twenty years, fifty years) I am still following my vows with the same commitment as when I said them for the first time, I’ll consider it a success.